mad
and
angry
someday im going to march out into an empty field with this computer and a sledgehammer and smash it to pieces and none of you will ever hear from me again
trying blogging as a venting tool, #dana dont look
aaaah h
i guess its ‘upset about friend abandonment issues’ night again over here at hlw industries
Brave was really, really awful. It is abuse enabling and victim blaming. This movie was obviously written by abusers. It is NOT what the previews lead you to believe. It is not a “progressive” or “feminist” movie with a strong female lead like the previews imply. Mulan was FAR more progressive in terms of female strength than this movie, and we all know that movie had PLENTY of problems. Disney is trying to sell the public on female strength, while actually explicitly promoting abuse culture.
If you don’t want to get spoiled, just read this part. These are the general themes about abuse that this movie tries to teach:
-Emotional abuse doesn’t exist.
-Grabbing, shaking, and throwing your child around is not abuse.
-Abuse and love can’t coexist (if your parent “loves” you, they can’t be abusive).
-There are “two sides” to every story of child abuse.
-Abuse is the child’s fault for not doing what the parent wants.
-Rebelling against abuse is “prideful,” and will result in disaster for you and your entire family.
DETAILS & SPOILERS BELOW:
hmm
ive seen a lot of different interpretations of the bow burning scene but this is definitely food for thought, disney i am Really Disappoint in you for this
(Source: xinashouse, via dragonitehugs)
ugh i guess im going to go to d&d on saturday after ??? weeks of missing sessions and being mislead as to when there was actually a meet
if i wind up sitting out in the sun for half an hour for no damn reason again tho i swear to god im never bothering again, i hate going there, everyone who isnt geoffry always makes me feel really insecure and bad about myself and there isnt always free food and tbh geoffry isnt even that nice to me despite nominally being my “”friend”“
so frikkin done with this whole thing but i need to get out of the house and maybe tanner and camille will be there ugh
ugh
1. Dan Savage hates trans people and uses transphobic slurs.
“Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives. Perhaps I’m a transphobic bigot, but I honestly think waiting a measly 36 months to cut your dick is a sacrifice any father should be willing to make for his 15-year-old son. Call me old-fashioned.
Unfortunately, your ex wasn’t willing to make that sacrifice (selfish tranny!), or it never occurred to him to make that sacrifice (stupid tranny!)…. If your son can’t deal with having his dad/mom/whatever around right now, support him and tell his dad/mom/whatever to leave the two of you alone for the time being.”
2. Dan Savage believes that bisexuals do not and should not exist.
“I’m not saying bi guys are bad people, or they don’t make great one-night stands. Bushes, bathhouses, and sleazy gay bars are crawling with bi guys. But if a guy wants more, he’ll have an easier time getting it from another gay man.”
3. Dan Savage has admonished women for not putting up with their partner’s sexual desires and has criticized female rape survivors’ stories.
“There the guy was, boned for you, and he was brave enough to put his desires out there, to make himself vulnerable (which is what the ladies are always saying they want, right?), and you lobbed the ol’ “What?!?” bomb at him and made him feel like a freak. Is it any wonder that he quickly moved on to “other things” and, one would hope, better sex partners?”
“I’m extremely sorry that you were raped, DRARS, although your baseless accusations of rape make me doubt you when you claim to be a survivor of rape. The feminist bloggers are going to accuse me of thought crimes: If a woman says she was raped then, by God, she was raped. (Tell it to the lacrosse team.) But if my reaction to your letter is a thought crime, I can only plead entrapment: I wouldn’t have had these illegal thoughts if you hadn’t sent me such a stupid letter in the first place… Finally, DRARS, I hereby withdraw my consent for you to read Savage Love. If you continue to read my column against my will, well, we all know what word to apply to your actions.”
4. Dan Savage thinks that racist gay white men are less of a threat to African-Americans than homophobic African-Americans are to gay people.
“I do know this, though: I’m done pretending that the handful of racist gay white men out there—and they’re out there, and I think they’re scum—are a bigger problem for African Americans, gay and straight, than the huge numbers of homophobic African Americans are for gay Americans, whatever their color.”
EDIT: Here are some more lovely gems from our resident asshole Dan Savage on his rampant hatred for everything not white, male, and gay:
5. Dan Savage thinks asexuals are secretly “fags”.
“I appreciate the feedback, Stephanie, and I’m sorry I offended you. But… um… I couldn’t help but think, as I read your letter, that your boyfriend is either a fool or a fag. But if it works for you guys—if a romantic relationship devoid of sexual attraction and activity works for you guys—then it works for you guys. Who am I to argue with success?”
6. Dan Savage is fatphobic.
“First off, LARDASS, you neglected to include a sign-off, forcing me to create one for you. I tried to create one that captured the spirit and tone of your letter, and I think I did pretty well… I am thoroughly annoyed at having my tame statements of fact—being heavy is a health risk; rolls of exposed flesh are unsightly—characterized as ‘hate speech.’”
(via aquavitaecollective)
im gonna fuckin cry im three paragraphs in and already this prose is so beautiful
why cant i write like this
i know if i practice for an additional ten years i might come close but i dont want to be good later i want to be even adequate right now
its so weird remembering that people i only know online have lives outside of the internet
and that almost all of them are at least a decade older than me???
and the fact that i actually know people’s “real names” well enough to recognize them and get totally blindsided when they pop up on my dash and be able to go “HEY I KNOW THAT PERSON, WHAT A GOOD PERSONAGE, I HAVE SUCH QUALITY FRIENDS”
i think you gotta understand triggers on tumblr are often not true, real triggers cause brain disfunction it’s like a phobia, a true fear that can make you shake violently and even throw up, people who get triggered by the ‘holocaust’ or ‘terezi being with dave instead of karkat’ are obviously bullshit.
1. who the fuck are you to proclaim that if the fear someone’s trigger causes is slightly more mild than that it’s not a real trigger and you’re just faking for the attention
2. one of these things is not like the others, friend are you for real? i know of at least one person who gets massively upset by the holocaust and honestly that’s not a thing that’s a stretch to imagine could trigger someone. it was a hugely upsetting genocidal event that is not even outside of living memory at this point in time.
3. i kind of agree with you about the “terezi being with dave instead of karkat” thing because demonoflight is a terrible person who APPEARS to just be really shitty and judgmental and bickery about their shipping.*
*disclaimer i could be totally wrong on this but that IS the kind of thing that makes me suspicious since there’s no inherently abusive problems with the idea of dave/terezi? there are possibly ways someone could be triggered by this but i find it a lot more likely that someone could be triggered by karkat/terezi given karkat’s recent behavior towards her in the comic and wOW IM SHUTTING UP NOW
tl;dr stop